When I was a boy I came to understand rape is a violent act. It was not difficult to reach that conclusion. After all, there was no other logical conclusion to make.
As an adult I can stand with the vast majority of people and make the same statement about rape. There is no nuance or dancing around that plain simple fact about a most horrible topic.
But over and over this year there has been constant reminders that not all boys had the same information imparted to them, and all men have not matured on the topic. In fact, far from it.
What bothers me most is that in a political season so many Republicans are offering up the most backwoods horse-rot imaginable about rape, and doing so openly and candidly. Gone is the filter of common sense. What is felt deep down about women, rape, and contraceptives has bubbled up from some Republicans and made headlines.
It is shocking to me that there is not consensus in this nation at least on the topic of rape. While we all can argue if tax rates should be lowered or if Syria should be armed, there should at least be agreement in the strongest terms about the nature of rape, and the fact is always a repugnant act.
In 2012 it is shocking to read the words from Rep. Roger Rivard (R-Rice Lake). How out of touch, moronic, and unacceptable his words and tone are about the violent act of rape.
It is clear that not only did his father teach him rubbish about rape, but he also forgot to inform “Roger” that sometimes it is best to stay quiet. While the comments about rape are offensive, I also have to question what possessed the representative to step in the middle of the such a political mess.
A state representative is drawing heat for saying that his father had told him when he was young that “some girls rape easy” as a way to warn him that a woman could agree to sex but then later claim that it wasn’t consensual.
Freshman Rep. Roger Rivard (R-Rice Lake) in December discussed a case with the Chetek Alert newspaper in which a 17-year-old high school senior was charged with sexual assault for having sex with an underage girl in the school’s band room.
The newspaper quoted him as saying his father warned him, “Some girls rape easy” – meaning that after the fact they can change what they say about whether sex was consensual. On Wednesday, Rivard told the Journal Sentinel that the article did not provide full context of his comments and that his father’s exact words had been slightly different from how they appeared in the Chetek Alert.
He told the Journal Sentinel that his father had advised him not to have premarital sex, and he took that seriously.
“He also told me one thing, ‘If you do (have premarital sex), just remember, consensual sex can turn into rape in an awful hurry,’ ” Rivard said. “Because all of a sudden a young lady gets pregnant and the parents are madder than a wet hen and she’s not going to say, ‘Oh, yeah, I was part of the program.’ All that she has to say or the parents have to say is it was rape because she’s underage. And he just said, ‘Remember, Roger, if you go down that road, some girls,’ he said, ‘they rape so easy.‘
“What the whole genesis of it was, it was advice to me, telling me, ‘If you’re going to go down that road, you may have consensual sex that night and then the next morning it may be rape.’ So the way he said it was, ‘Just remember, Roger, some girls, they rape so easy. It may be rape the next morning.’
“So it’s been kind of taken out of context.”
No, Roger, we understand what you said. That is why so many are upset.