Why Didn’t Green Bay Quarterback Aaron Rogers Come Out As Gay This Year?


The rumors have swirled for years over Green Bay quarterback Aaron Rodgers being gay.   One has to admit he does have that Jake Gyllenhaal look about him.  Many wondered if Rogers was gay why he did not take part in what had been promoted as a concerted effort by professional athletes to come out as a group to help move the homophobic football league forward.    That of course did not happen, but the story has not ended.    The fact is that his sexuality has nothing to do with his job as a football player.  That, in part, is the reason if he is gay he should come out.  Especially in Wisconsin and Green Bay where there needs to be some lights turned on, and the dialogue lifted when it comes to gay rights following the insanity that took place in 2006 with a constitutional amendment that was pure anti-gay bigotry.

With the stature and goodwill that Rogers has in the state he would be the perfect person to place at the forefront for why the old stereotypes need to be tossed aside.  Secondly, the boost this would give to all those gay kids in rural Wisconsin who seek role models and examples as to why they too can live the way there were born would be absolutely the best outcome that could be had as a result of Rogers’ action.


Rumors are swirling that Green Bay Packers quarterback Aaron Rodgers was one of the NFL stars expected to come out of the closet this summer, and a cyber sleuth site is all but confirming it with a wealth of dirt that suggests he’s also in a gay relationship.

The Fame Driven was apparently tipped off by an anonymous “spy,” who pointed to a number of now-deleted tweets from the Twitter account of Kevin Lanflisi, the man who worked as Rodgers’ “personal assistant” and lived in his home as “a roommate” for the last several years. (Kinda like Kerry Rhodes and his “friend”…)

According to the spy:

Aaron has attended numerous sports award shows with Kevin, always color coordinated and without any double female dates, including the ESPY’s. Kevin was also the first person Aaron embraced when the Packers won the Super-bowl in 2011. I just find it really strange that as of late there has been many bitter subliminal tweets on Kevin Lanflisi’s twitter alluding to a relationship much deeper than a friendship he had, with who I perceive to be Aaron Rodgers, because Kevin has NEVER once tweeted about having a girlfriend, just mainly about the Green Bay Packers, Aaron Rodgers, and Justin Bieber’s music and sitting front row at Bieber’s concert. There has been speculation for years here in Wisconsin that Aaron is gay.

Rodgers first referred to the super-cute Lanflisi as his “roommate” in a 2008 interview with Sporting News, saying they “just hit it off” when Lanflisi was interning for the Packers. “He’s been great for me as far as great conversations outside of football,” he said. “Our friendship goes a lot deeper than what we do.”


A friendship that apparently also came with a ring! And not just any ring—the prestigious Super Bowl MVP ring which was awarded to Rodgers in 2011. Lanflisi tweeted photos of himself wearing the ring once Rodgers brought it to their shared home.

Shortly after, Rodgers told MilwaukeeMag that he based friendships with other celebrities on whether or not they accepted his “personal assistant/roommate”:

“I kind of judge how those people are based on how they are to people like Kevin,” Rodgers explains. “Kevin, he’s not a famous person. I want to see if they give Kevin the time of day, or if they big-time him.”

A source close to the couple also claimed their relationship is now in turmoil as a result of the botched mass NFL outing scheduled over the summer. Aaron Rodgers was allegedly one of the men involved, and his backing out at the last minute infuriated Lanflisi, shattering their relationship.

If their rumored relationship is actually fact, the truth could come sooner than we’d have thought. In the words of Kevin Lanflisi himself, “Silence always comes with an expiration date..”


24 thoughts on “Why Didn’t Green Bay Quarterback Aaron Rogers Come Out As Gay This Year?

  1. And how many examples of coming out are needed before the Lamentations cease? I remember a time when bedroom privacy was the norm. Now it’s all about which genders are involved. I like the old way better.

  2. Dale,

    That time you recall was also when people could be fired for being gay, denied rental rights, gay couples had no legal rights, gay bars were busted up by cops, beat-downs were common of gay people, and there were no gay public figures in entertainment or politics.

    It is exactly because of a very well thought-out plan to put a face on being gay at all levels starting in the late 1970’s that has produced the gains society now enjoys. My partner and I are/were very much a part of that process.

    Before gay men and women there were many who would have echoed your thoughts in the same way about African-Americans. Why did they need to sit at the front of the bus and lunch at diner counters? Why could they not allow for a military that discriminated or function in run-down schools?

    And before the civil rights for blacks there was the fight for women rights when men often could have echoed your thoughts about gays with the female gender. Why could they just not be content limiting their roles in society, not desiring to wear pants, wanting to drive cars and do so without male accompaniment, vote and take part in national affairs?

    As a lover of history (my entire life) from around the world I am just lost as to why the social arc of history does not fascinate and stir pride and hope. From the dawn of written history the job is not complete until the goal has been met.

    And that is the same with gay rights.

  3. Alinka

    You like “the old better”? Bedroom privacy was the norm? tell it to Mildred and Richard Loving ;)Anyway, appreciate the debate, different opinions is what makes it interesting.

    President Obama said in the honoring MLK speech last year “The Arc of history bends towards justice but it doesn’t bend on its own”. And Greg, thanks for the Vineyards of Freedom book advice, sounds like what I would love too, as well. Your book was GREAT- you do have a very kind heart, my friend..:)

  4. There was a time when the media did not talk about why some one did or did not ‘come out’. I did not mean to infer that we should regress on gay rights, only that we should stop making ‘coming out’ a topic of discussion. Let the privacy of the bedroom prevail. Stop lamenting who did not come out and how more role models are needed. How many more examples are needed before personal privacy in the bedroom is restored and the media are quiet?

  5. Dale,

    There was a time when all sorts of issues were not talked about as they were not deemed proper or they were too sensitive, etc for what was considered ‘appropriate’ national dialogue. Look at the topics that were never discussed on on TV until Phil Donahue broke open the possibilities. Nothing is wrong with talking and knowing about a whole raft of issues. I also might answer your question as to when we can stop with this conversation with the response of when I no longer wake up and find the highest court in the land still working to remove the civil rights that all Americans deserve to have.

  6. I also must say that this matter is not one about the bedroom, as if the only thing that gay people do is have sex. This is an issue about legal rights and number over 1,100 when both federal and state rights are taken into account. When I was about to sue a former employer, and I was about to hire the best law firm in Wisconsin (Milwaukee based) James could not sit in for one of the meetings (lasting three hours) as he was not ‘my spouse’ and could have actually been called by the other side if the case had went to trial to take the stand against me. If we were married that could not have happened. That is but one small example of the larger issues that I am talking about when I press my case on CP for social changes. That is why another famous face (like Rogers) matters, and why the work continues until full civil rights are firmly planted for gay people as they are now for straight couples.

  7. Alinka

    sorry for being somewhat annoying lately, but dear Dale,you are interesting character in a sense you seem from another planet.. Why is having more role models a bad thing, why hiding truth from snoopy media is needed when telling its yields great social benefit ?

    Lastly, as Deke said, why gay = bedroom? One usually knows (and is mercilessly bullied) about being gay way before reaching the age when having sex is legal – and remains gay long after he forgot what else bedroom is for besides sleeping.

  8. tom


    the individual’s right to privacy is more important than your desire to force him to be a role model. What country are you from? While there is no constitutional right to privacy (unless Deke suddenly decides there is) Americans seem to prize this very highly. It is right up there with individual choice, so why not let Mr. Rodgers make his choices in peace?

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