One of the charms of living in the city is to eat outside at sidewalk tables. My delight with this comes from growing up in a rural setting where I could only dream of such times, and even though I am 51 it still just is a most relaxing way to eat and enjoy the evening.
So as James and I were seated for a late evening snack on Williamson Street, near a corner with a stoplight, one of those things happened that I consider rude and just another sign that things are going in the wrong direction with some in our society.
Pulled up to the stop light was a large SUV type vehicle with the windows half-down on a truly wonderful evening with light breezes and temperatures hovering near 70 degrees. A type of night that we waited for many months to arrive in Madison.
There was music playing loudly so that every word could be heard.
Most of it did not register as I was tuning it out until it repeated the phrase about F…… Y… As in the act of ……
I turned to the woman in her 20’s that was cleaning up a table adjacent to ours and asked “Did I just hear that?’
She crunched her mouth up, shook her head affirmatively, and lowered her eyes.
Now I obviously question the quality of people who record such ‘stuff’ and call it music, and simply wonder who would produce or distribute it.
But as we walked tonight I also started to wonder about the type of person who would not only buy it, but play it in the fashion that he did.
If this had been a 19 year-old-guy it might all be passed off as showing off or someone still needing to grow up. But the man in the SUV was I estimate in his early 30’s and seemed shameless about the trash he was not only listening to, but spilling out onto the streets for others to be forced to hear.
Since this place we were seated at serves awesome ice-cream it goes without saying that parents take kids there, and everyone loves an outside seat if one is to be had.
I know this will be passed off by some that I am a grouchy old man who probably yells ‘get off my grass’ at passersby. But nothing could be further from the truth. I am really quite friendly, open-minded, and reasonable.
But I see more and more the fringes of society acting without regard for anyone else in ways that are embarrassing, low-brow, unseemly, and obviously without any sense of how one ought to behave in normal society. Too often instead of a harsh rebuke others just let such behavior slide and pretend the newest lowest common denominator is now to be expected and accepted.
I just can not do that.
And I do not think others should either.
Debasing women and using profanity for the sake of being crude and rude is just not what anyone wants to hear.